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“Hell! Where did I keep my keys?” I screamed and pushed some things away hoping to find the keys to my Dental clinic. It was eight in the night; we had to push out of the house for a movie at nine, but before that, I had to put the shutter down for my clinic which is right there on the way. I was getting impatient and annoyed at the same time. Even my husband was looking around, but he showed no such agitation like me, “relax” he said and continued humming and searching at the same time. To add to my agitation my phone rang, it was a close friend’s call, “what’s your problem now?” I answered in an angry tone! I am not sure why but I did, and continued heating up and threw my phone away. People who know me closely know that I wasn’t in the best frame of my mind for more than two years. I conveniently blamed others for my problems, I conveniently switched my moods to good, bad and ugly, I conveniently accepted that it’s not me it’s my adverse circumstances! I was convenient with the

Very recently the nation witnessed the excitement and thrill of a celebrity wedding! From waiting for pictures to be uploaded, to making quick memes and posts on it, many of us were engrossed and obviously indirectly involved thoroughly in the wedding. Ironically while the couple getting married was staying at a safe distance away from people, we played the role of a typical religious neighbor who gets involved in any matter in the padosi’s house even when they are not expected to be involved. Out of the excitement yet? Or stalking the next wedding already? Unfortunately in times today we are exposed to more than the required amount of information about others lives. From what they ate to what they wore or achieved we know it all! By this, we imagine a picture-perfect life that we feel others are leading and obviously, try projecting ours as the same. The vicious cycle continues and in this tug of war for posting the best updates online, we all lose a bit of ourselves everyday offl

Everything around us has taken a huge turn in the past one decade, from love and connectivity to knowledge and wisdom we are quick in getting them all. The quick here is just a button or just a click away. Something more which has entered the list of getting it quick along with the other things is fame and success! The good that has come with the quick way is that we have moved a lot ahead in terms of technology, we have opened the doors for many such things which were previously just a dream, but the bad is that we have become a lot more impatient for everything, we just don’t want to wait for anything at all. For instance, we are not bothered sending handwritten letters which may take a couple of days to reach someone, when the option to make a video call is now available! And sadly we are not bothered to wait and refine ourselves more, struggle more and learn more when fame followed by success is also just a click away? There is a big question that arises here; in today’s time a

With such a diverse culture that exists in India, which is so beautiful, we also have a lot of spoken languages. While the total number of languages that are spoken in our country are enlisted as twenty-two, Hindi and English remain the official languages. It was Hindi that was stated as the only official language originally until the amendments in the constitution introduced the usage of English, which is thus continuing till date as the second official language. But despite the stated facts, we have our own sentiments for languages which run separately in each one of us. From the debates on which language should be the National language of the country to the mandatory use of a regional language if someone from one state stays in another, we can go on and on about this topic. Keeping the regional languages aside while some of us are pro-Hindi with all our heart and soul, the rest remain pro-English in terms of speaking and of course in terms of being grammatically correct all the ti

Well so today my bad health has kept me at home and I have been browsing my social networking sites more than usual, which unfortunately is making me sicker! Why? Because most of the posts by most of the people are a mere tug of war posts about different political parties. Have you also felt the same anytime? From lame jokes about different leaders and political parties to heated arguments leading nowhere the sites are full of posts which are nothing more than a mere verbal war . One statement by some leader and the internet gets filled with n number of jokes about it, one step taken by another and the internet again gets filled with the pros, cons, and discussions which of course are based on half-information many times. It’s always good to know the prevailing politics in the country, it’s good to know what is been done, the steps that are taken and so on and so forth but the only thing that should be done is, knowing it, doing your job right and of course voting for the candidate

In the past one month, I had to travel to four different states, for different reasons, some for work and some for leisure. It has been a jam-packed month and the backlog of work at my base place after that has kept me way too occupied to post a blog. The travel was exhaustive because it was at a stretch but there have been way too many lessons which I have picked up on my way. I guess it will be more systematic if I summarize my lessons in points, so here it goes! 1.      Travel to know that you are not the only one : Well yes, most of us are cocooned! We are the heroes in our boundaries, where on one hand it’s good to be one, on the other it gets us stuck at that spot itself. For instance, I believe that I am a very independent person, I manage many things alone and I do a lot of creative things apart from my profession. Even my family boasts me constantly about it and I am content being the made-up heroine! Beyond my boundaries and outside my city it’s very common for a girl t

The fresh smell of unread pages, the colorful illustrations in between the black and white lines, the privilege to write, mark and underline at one’s own will and the feel of crisp pages and smooth cover, a hardbound book no doubt has a lot more than that to offer its readers. Wait! When was it the last time that you actually held a hard copy of any text, be it a book, magazine, article or even newspaper! We are so busy scrolling down that at times that we completely forget to turn the pages. With the advent of technology which now allows us to read on the go, the reach of the text and knowledge is definitely much more than before but the feel and depth that a hard copy gives you is totally irreplaceable. The exhaustion associated with using multi-media devices, the disturbing texts and calls in between reading, and lack of any touch associated with the text can never connect you to a writing as much a printed copy can. And if you happen to be a writer by any chance then in very simi

Didn’t get that job? Scored less? Couldn’t make it as big as someone else? Your dream project failed? Or failed in a personal relationship? Then why are you so upset over it? Isn’t it a part of life? Isn’t failure just as normal as so many other events that we face on a daily basis? What is failure? When we are not able to achieve any of our desires or fulfill others expectations from us, then we consider we have failed. When we look around and compare our lives to that of others and find them better than us, then we consider we have failed. When we do our calculations to live our lives in a certain way but we live it much differently due to n number of reasons then we consider we have failed. But who said life comes in a straight line and a set pattern? Who said that life is like a mathematics equation where a+b has to be equal to c? Sadly the distinction between success and failure is instilled in our dictionaries right since the time when we start our education, a child who sc

A young doctor was declared dead this morning after the assault that he had to suffer from the attendees of a patient just a few days back! Not just him, a bunch of many other young residents were attacked violently by a patients relatives in this same case. And this is just one incidence, many such incidences happen on a very frequent basis and have been on an unfortunate rise in the past few years. I am ashamed to even type that the doctors are beaten up, shamed, dragged into consumer courts and at times even abused by the patients for anything that goes unexpected! I have grown up in a family submerged in medical science, and at present I reside in a campus full of medicine graduates, I have grown up seeing doctors and now that I am practicing as one too, I realize the level of responsibility, care, concern, and compromise that the doctors carry on their shoulders. Medicine is not an industry where things come easy, right from a naïve age when the other school kids enter grad

“Bramhin?” somebody had asked me when I first entered my graduation school, “Hmm...I guess so” is what I had responded, but how does it matter? Is what I thought that time? I got my first ugly picture about people’s obsession with caste, sub-caste and more during my graduation days. I am glad I was spared from it in school but I am sad that it still gripped me during my early student years. It gave me its first impression in the form of different beliefs, different food habits, and different traditions but as I started to know it more the impression took a serious and sad turn and it became all about different pride, different community, and different political followings!  I realized that the difference was so important that it did come in between two people when they wanted to get married, and it did evoke some harsh response if it was ever questioned. In scenarios when I looked out for work the difference was fruitful for me when I met others of my own caste, and the difference wa

The bed that you left unmade gets back in position; the bathroom which was all wet and messy gets spic and span, the lunches and the dinners are always take care of, the daily vegetables, the rice, and pulses or the detergent to wash your clothes is magically on time! Yes, this is magical and this is done by a silent magician who works day in and day out around you, for a smooth and organized every day! These magicians are none other than the beautiful women who make and maintain your houses, the wonderful housewives! In an era in which we are living today, everybody is submerged in competition, in work and in succeeding, everyone is constantly running and everyone wants to rise beyond boundaries, but these amazing women are a selfless pillar of strength for the ones who are running around; their husbands, their children, their daughter-in-law, or the other working women members of the house.  Their ambitions and their strength is the success of their loved ones. And it’s their amb

The most expensive looking outfit’s for the bride and the groom, a huge space decorated with the best of flowers, both an indoor and outdoor arrangement, a theme to add to the décor, an additional arrangement of some musical entertainment, some of the most dazzling lights, a good residential accommodation for the guests! And of course, how can I forget the food with four to five varieties of main course cuisines, five to six varieties of desserts, and other delicacies. Well, that’s more or less what a typical Big, Fat India wedding constitutes of! And why? Because the neighbors had done it the same way? Because your relatives would think you don’t have enough savings? Or because you don’t want to break the trend and rather take it the way it has been since always! The wedding season is at its peak and I am sure just like me even you must have attended many weddings in the past few days. In the weddings that I attended some did have a bigger space than the other and some did have

Right since the inception of the much talked about Bollywood movie “Padmavat” it has been blanketed and submerged in controversies! While some continued to believe that it is nothing but publicity, the others stood strongly against it. Unfortunately, the strongly against wasn’t limited to the vocal cords but it did hit and affect, and is continuing to affect the masses much beyond it! It did catch my attention when I read about some unusual things where the director’s head and the actresses nose was demanded, and I have been following and reading about the drama since then. Trust me the more I read it the more I got confused about the human race. In fact, after a recent appalling incidence, I was certain that there is a blend of the human heart with the devil's mind in some people which is resulting in activities as surprising as attacking the school kids. Here is what I tweeted on the day following that incidence. I am very certain that I will lose an argument if I sta

Of the many frequent News which I keep reading about some or other mishappenings in schools, the one today was from my own native city, Lucknow. For the ones who do not know about it; it said that in one of the schools in the city an incident was reported where a 6 th standard girl, stabbed another girl from the 1 st standard who thankfully survived but with multiple injuries. The discussions which I heard and read on the radio, on the social media etc were all about, whom do you think is actually responsible for such incidents? People did talk about the need for understanding a child’s psychology, parenting, to an extent about the school’s and so on and so forth! Though In my own opinion the cause of any such and every such incident is “ALL of us”, you, me and everyone else! And why so? Let’s try taking it in a simple way; we have come a very long way in a very short time. The 1998 and 2018 has a difference of just 20 years, but we have covered a vast distance! From waiting for

“And finally after all the long rituals and other formalities you two are pronounced as husband and wife!” and of course this declaration is made for a “ Happily forever” I mean of course technically it is supposed to be a happily forever! Irrespective of whether it’s a love marriage or an arranged wedding the two of you have to know each other in the depths of an everyday routine! You eat and drink together, you laugh and fight together, so much so that there are no secrets kept and of course all facts are known. With the amount of time that a married couple stays together the two try to make things special for the other person on an everyday basis; for instance your wife may cook a special meal wholeheartedly for you on a random day, or your husband may randomly take you out for a late night drive just to spend some quiet time with you. Despite the every day that the two spend with each other the expectations and the hope from either are raised by multiple folds as soon a