Failure? Yes Its Normal!

Didn’t get that job? Scored less? Couldn’t make it as big as someone else? Your dream project failed? Or failed in a personal relationship? Then why are you so upset over it? Isn’t it a part of life? Isn’t failure just as normal as so many other events that we face on a daily basis?

What is failure? When we are not able to achieve any of our desires or fulfill others expectations from us, then we consider we have failed. When we look around and compare our lives to that of others and find them better than us, then we consider we have failed. When we do our calculations to live our lives in a certain way but we live it much differently due to n number of reasons then we consider we have failed. But who said life comes in a straight line and a set pattern? Who said that life is like a mathematics equation where a+b has to be equal to c?

Sadly the distinction between success and failure is instilled in our dictionaries right since the time when we start our education, a child who scores more is honored, celebrated and is made the hero amongst the other school kids and is tagged as successful. The rest of the lot as per their scores is tagged as above-average average, weak, and failure. The child who picks up something fast is tagged as smart, intelligent and successful and the others who may be good enough at their pace are tagged as slow, not as sharp and in need to improve. We make the highest as the benchmark and by a strange comparison between two different people we come up with the two big terms of success and failure. The same attitude is carried forward in the adulthood when the one that gets more popular, who always gets through with what they want to, who earn more etc are distinguished as the successful few and the others are buried under the huge weight of the term called “Failure”.

We emphasize so much on terms like Winning, achieving, becoming number one and so on and so forth that we forget that success is just another thing in the roads that we are treading. There are ups and there are downs and it’s a highly individual journey that anyone follows that ways. For a certain someone, the road may be like a plain and smooth highway, while for someone else it may be full of high steeps and low valleys. Yes we all have our custom made roads, we all have our own sets of strengths and weakness, we all have our own ways and attitudes then how can we come up with terms of success and failure by comparison of two people who are so different, whose journey is so different.

Everyone does not get married by twenty-five, everyone does not end up having the best of relationships, everyone does not succeed in everything they do and everyone does not get famous either! Let us stop burdening ourselves by comparing our lives to that of others, let us realize that we are gifted with our own journeys and the only true measure of success is that “How much you enjoy your own ride!”
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