How much do you think you should expect from your spouse’s on your birth-date or may be any other special date!

“And finally after all the long rituals and other formalities you two are pronounced as husband and wife!” and of course this declaration is made for a “Happily forever” I mean of course technically it is supposed to be a happily forever!

Irrespective of whether it’s a love marriage or an arranged wedding the two of you have to know each other in the depths of an everyday routine! You eat and drink together, you laugh and fight together, so much so that there are no secrets kept and of course all facts are known. With the amount of time that a married couple stays together the two try to make things special for the other person on an everyday basis; for instance your wife may cook a special meal wholeheartedly for you on a random day, or your husband may randomly take you out for a late night drive just to spend some quiet time with you.

Despite the every day that the two spend with each other the expectations and the hope from either are raised by multiple folds as soon as a special date arrives! With all the love that they show you every day and all the special things that they anyways do for you, have you ever thought how difficult it is for them to add more flavor on top of it? And speaking by human psychology the things they may try to do for you may appear lesser catchy that a gesture by someone else because you see them and be with them every day! The extra special efforts may still be made, with extra-glitter and extra-gestures on your first birthday together; a surprise party may be organized or a nice trip may be planned etc; but of course the same things won’t be the same surprising with passing years and it may actually challenge your spouse to continuously think of a better way to make you feel special. Thus I feel that the expectations should gear down with at least the nexts! There are many other ways to make a special day special than expecting your spouse’s to do it for you, who anyway will do whatever they can!

It’s rather good to acknowledge each other on a daily basis for the smallest of things, and the slightest of gestures than burdening them and expecting from them on the so-called special dates! Forever is a long time, but we don’t actually know how long it is, so let’s cherish the smaller moments to our best rather than waiting for the yearly dates!

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