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Respect: A lost treasure in relationships!


Of all the dynamics that surround us on an everyday basis, the most important aspect of our lives remains our relationships. It can be our relationship with our elders, our friends, our helpers, our colleagues or the most hyped and talked about relationships with our spouse or lover. In a world full of billions of humans beings, it is our connection with these handful of people around us that makes our lives more meaningful and beautiful. But unfortunately, it is the same relations which at times also become the cause of our endless sufferings and pain. The suffering from a relation is labeled to occur because of the change in dynamics due to lack of understanding, generation gap, fading away of love with time or altered emotional component of either person in the relation. But irrespective of love and emotion, which of course, are one the most marketed terms today, the only aspect of a relation which is highly overlooked and which has the potential to alter almost everything between any two individuals is Respect!
With the big terms like emotions and love, we have certainly forgotten about this little basic term respect which is the foundation of all other components. Why was it, that in the black and white era that the human race has lived, pointing out or raising one's voice against the elders was considered something that would make you gasp! And why is it, that shouting, arguing or at times even demeaning one's elders is considered normal now? Why is it that the longevity of our life long relations is constantly falling? Why are we on a constant lookout for newer equations and fail to stick or stay loyal to what we have?
In the era that we are living in, we are constantly told how important it is to express ourselves. Be it in the form of newer apps and means of technologies to express, which are adding on to the list of the existing ones every day, or, in the form of an increasing number of days which are labeled special! Father’s, daughters, lovers, elders and the list is endless. But sadly, despite the ability and opportunities to express ourselves more freely today, we have completely lost the depth in our equations. Saying you love someone holds no meaning if they are a constant bearer of all your nasty moods every day. Posting the best selfie with your father on father’s day has no meaning if you don’t value his opinion due to your own false ego! The only little thing that can avoid you making someone your daily punching bag, or discussing and understanding instead of outrightly rejecting your dad’s opinion is nothing but respect in the relation. Because respect is nothing but sacrificing and silencing one's ego for the sake of someone else.
With the ability to talk, hear and discuss just like us, it is these human connects which have the maximum ability to have an impact on us in various ways. Why not then put aside our big egos respect each other’s individuality, opinion, and personality and take back nothing but positivity from each other.
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