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Let us judge less and accept more!

We have a lot of discussions around us every day about the rights and the wrongs and unfortunately most such rights and wrongs that are laid down by the society revolve around a woman. Wearing a certain type of clothes for girls is not right says one lot, and be broad-minded says the other; girls can party till any time they want say one lot, and there is a certain restriction that girls should follow for their own safety says the other. The biological clock for woman is always tickling and thus girls should get married on time so that they can deliver a healthy child says one logical lot while the other may argue saying that we have advanced and the girl should pursue her career, get stable or even buy herself a house and then look for a companion to settle. Change your surname it makes you more connected to the man you marry suggest some; maintain your identity say the other. And of course, in a very recent controversy which involved one of the best and a world-famous music composer, the Hijaab wore by women was yet again questioned to be right or wrong!

Since times immemorial we have tried to define our culture, and at the same time, we have divided it as per our religions and of course castes. The right by one set of religion may be considered wrong by the other and so on and so forth. With time as we progressed and the world became a smaller place with more connectivity and exchange of ideas, we did get influenced by the west as well. With the shuffle and re-shuffle of our ideas relating to our culture and the right and wrong surrounding it, we in the twenty-first century today live in a country of mixed opinions and divide of ideas even amongst the same religion or caste. Where some of us follow strict ideologies influenced by the generations much before them, the others are more flexible with their ideas and beliefs and consider themselves to have advanced as a more accepting and broad-minded individual. This difference in beliefs comes by a lot of external influences, like the place where one stays and the environment that surrounds him/her plays a major role. A girl without a sindoor and mangalsootra after her wedding can come across as strange to the ones who follow these traditions with all their religious sentiments and surprisingly if a married girl is spotted in a mall wearing a saree and all her religious ornaments it can be considered un-cool by the ones who consider themselves evolved and advanced. It is the same difference in beliefs and opinions that spills in the form of trolls on social media or arguments in person.
What is cool in the true sense? What is broad-minded in the true sense? And what is right and wrong in the true sense? The only answer that can fit to all the above questions is that one’s choice to confidently follow something or believe in something is the only thing that makes them cool, or broad-minded or right! And of course allowing others to follow their choices, without trying to impose our set of ideas on them is what truly makes us cool or broad-minded or advanced! Let us stop expecting that girl grown up in a small little town to wear skirts for parties, and also let us stop expecting that lady who has always traveled, worked and lived independently take a veil over her head after she gets married.

In this century where we come up with new definitions for everything every day, let’s judge less and accept more, let's appreciate the diversity of thoughts that prevail around us, let us live and let live. 
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