Feminism! Big word right? Yes, I am a woman and a feminist myself, I do believe in the safety, opportunities and the independence for women, and I also believe that women should have all the rights to decide and carve the events in their lives and shape their own destinies. But does that make me a woman who deliberately imposes things on men? Does that make me a woman who deliberately runs away from things which have otherwise been beautifully recognized as a woman’s duties?
Women have come a long way from the time when the feminist ideas first evolved. They have conquered many battles, and today they hold a much better position in most of the areas of life, in many if not all the portions of the world. Then why do we see women getting against what used to be “their own”, why do see women focusing more on what they shouldn’t do than what they should do. Why instead of focusing on equal rights to get educated, work and earn, women have rather started turning their backs on household work, on giving time to their families, and in enforcing men to involve in what otherwise was only a woman’s duty. I do not say working in the house is only a woman’s responsibility, I say it’s naturally divided if a woman is devoting time to work and shares responsibility in earning bread for the house. Shouting loud for your rights and turning your back on your duties is not feminism by any means. Talking boldly about some private things and getting rough with your words isn’t feminism either. It saddens me to see the many social media posts by ladies which instead of sounding strong and positive sound demeaning and negative. It also saddens me to see the multiple women associations which start with a positive idea but end up focusing on what men should do rather on what women should do. Realize dear ladies that we are fortunate to be living in an era where, not only we have the right to choose what we want, but also, we have the power to voice our opinions by the multiple channels available. Let's live our rights in the right way, rather than shouting loud for our rights in all the wrong manners.
A woman is the most beautiful creation of God, who has always been associated with dignity, care, patience, and love, it is a woman who bears and builds the generations. The distinction that was made by nature was to create a certain balance in the society. Feminism doesn’t mean going ahead by disrupting that balance and feminism doesn’t mean “man-like” either. My dear ladies work hard, earn more, get well read and marry only when you want to, but don’t cut your roots of being a woman. For no matter how tall a tree grows it stands there and stands strong only if it has its roots deep-seated, well adhered and unaffected by the length of its stem and the number of its branches. Proud to be a woman!
Dr. Vandita Mishra (A working woman!)
The article appeared in Hindustan times newspaper, Lucknow edition, date 18.12.2017
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